3 Adjustments to Soothe Your Back to School Transition

So, it's October now.

Do you feel settled yet in the back to school grind?

Kindergarten parents - I’m specifically sending you all the transition love in this new phase of life.

I remember our Kindergarten days being so inconsistent and so reactive. There were times when Lucas would ask me, "why do we just go to school, come home, eat and go to bed." Then there were days where he NEEDED to be active, but was too exhausted and after was a DISASTER! Nothing was ever consistent and I never knew the "right" thing to do for him or me.

It felt like being back with a newborn and having to figure out what he needed and nobody having the words to be able to communicate with each other.

Honestly, I was a little shocked by just how INTENSE it was.

I remember very quickly realizing that this year was going to be all about slowing down to a HAULT. Doing the bare minimum and just moving through this time of life.

We NEVER did after school activities.

We NEVER had playdates (well, maybe 2)

We ALWAYS had meltdowns on the sidewalk

We ALWAYS finished our day exhausted.

Fast forward a year and first grade is SO different. I learned a LOT as a parent and what it means to be a parent of a school aged kid through our first year of Kindergarten.

I learned how to navigate the school system, interpret my son’s needs within this larger system and how to adjust to do what’s best for our family while having to adhere to a bigger picture.

As always, I learned to chill out EVEN MORE as a parent and was reminded of what’s important and worth my focus. That’s something I am constantly learning in new phases of life.

I’d love to share those with you some KEY CHANGES that helped us along the way - because even though it’s October -

It’s never too late to make the right adjustments for your family and we still have 8 months to go! 🙂

Here are 3 adjustments to help soothe the rest of your school year:

 

A realistic and simplified morning schedule.

This starts the day off and will carry your child through the day with positive energy. A strong morning routine can look different for everyone, but consistency is KEY.

Once you’ve assessed the situation and come up with some potential solutions, have a conversation with your child about what’s not working. Ask them how they would LIKE to have their day look.

It is SO important that we open up the lines of communication with our kids and let them in on the discussion of making change in your days. Whether that is change in meals, change in schedule ect. TALK about what’s happening, what’s working and what’s not.

Playtime in the morning.

Once kids start school, they often don’t have enough time to just play freely. Play is how our kids learn, process and unwind. By giving them some time in the morning to wake up - they can engage with themselves and begin their day settled.

Some of you might be saying that - “If I let my kid play, he will never want to stop and it will be a mess.”

  • I get that and this will work better for some kids than others, but the CONVERSATION around this routine will ensure that this is something you are doing TOGETHER.
  • Adding structure to it will be KEY to success.

Make a plan & visuals to aide.

My morning routine with my kids looks like this:

  1. 1st alarm goes off at 6am. I wake up the kids and let them know it’s time to get up and they have 30min. to play (I go back to bed)
  2. 2nd alarm goes off at 6:30: This is there 5 minute warning that play is about to stop
  3. 3rd alarm goes off at 6:35: Time to start getting ready
  4. Go to our “Are you ready?” chart and start the routine. They have a choice to do the routine in whatever order they choose.
  5. If there is extra time, they can read or play some more. (be careful of the play some more piece here because that can be ard for kids to pull away from when it’s time to actually leave. (but remember a pllus - their shoes and all are already on.)

Ask yourself: What is my child's temperament?

Is your child an introvert - an extrovert - or a little of both?

This can be  really telling aspect of your child’s personality. Recognizing and honoring this part of your child’s personality will allow you to best support and understand them.

What is an introvert?

The definition of an introvert is someone who prefers calm, minimally stimulating environments. Introverts tend to feel drained after socializing and regain their energy by spending time alone. This is largely because introverts’ brains respond to dopamine differently than extroverts’ brains. In other words, if you’re an introvert, you were likely born that way.

What is an extrovert?

As with Introverts getting “filled up” by getting some alone time, Extroverts get “filled up” and energized by being around others.

If they finish a full day, sometimes the best way for them to ground is by being at a playground with friends. That’s relaxing and calming to them.

What is an introvert/extrovert?

Being introvert or extrovert is always on a scale and people are typically not just 1 or the other. Being an introvert/extrovert could mean that you do your best work with others, but than when you are tapped out, you need to be alone to recharge.

Paying attention to how your child reacts in different situations can give you clues to whether they have introvert or extrovert tendencies. This can help you better asses what they need after a long day at school.

So, what does my child need right after school?

  • Down time with minimal stimulation
  • Quiet connection with you or another person
  • Get out pent up energy from their day

Talk with them and find out!

Ask them what makes them feel calm? What makes them feel recharged? As always - don’t have this conversation in the moment. Have it during bedtime or on a weekend when you are just hanging around the house.

Eat Dinner Earlier.

Majority of kids internal dinner time is often at 4:30-5pm

  1. Pay attention to when your kids hungriest. When are they eating the most snacks
  2. Utilize that time to get healthy food into them at that time. Maybe it is a sit down and have dinner or maybe it’s a really healthy schmorgas board (cheese, olive, vegetables, grains)
  3. You can still have your sit down dinner at 6:30 if that is what works with your families schedule, but the pressure is off because you know they’ve eaten something healthy already.

This early fuel will give them the energy and ability to make it through the rest of the day and minimize the big feelings and tantrums.

Reminder: Don't forget to play with your kids! 

Our kids connect with us THROUGH play. Making 10 MINUTES of focused time to play together can make a huge difference in your after school. Set a timer - focus on play - move through the rest of the afternoon.

At the end of the day, everyone’s family works differently, but the more we can slow down and prioritize deep connection within our busy lives - the stronger, more grounded & capable we AND OUR CHILDREN will be.

Xoxox

Kim

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Kids crave consistency & Kids Cooking Classes provide just that!

kids cooking classes in the garden

I have some great news to share!

Because our kids cooking classes are not JUST kids cooking classes and provide your child with an immense toolbox of skills, these classes are also best when done consistently.
When kids are given constant and ongoing exposure to whole foods, they cultivate a strong relationship to their food and healthy eating in the long run.
That is the exact reason why I have decided to move from a series based schedule to a membership schedule for you all.

 

We are now offering monthly memberships to our Afterschool and Weekend Series.

These new membership options provide a financial savings for you.
It will give your child that constant exposure they want and need.
It will also allow your kids to continue to take a step deeper into their skills in the kitchen and garden every three months.

 

The most fun part?

The kids will get to celebrate their new skills and learning every three months with a dinner that they cook and present to you!
Kind of like a recital, but kitchen style! 🙂
And Tangy Sweet Photography will capture our kids cooking classes. This means you will have the option to purchase professional photo's of your child during their kids cooking classes.

 

So here are the details:

  • With the membership, you are able to cancel at any time, no charge (30-day notice is needed)
  • More flexibility - Our schedule is expanding to 6 days a week and you will have the ability to switch classes should when your schedule changes.
  • Monthly payments are auto-recurring. No more worrying about signing up in time and dealing with reminder emails or forgetting that discount code.
  • The best partYour kiddo gets to look forward to their weekly cooking class and continue to build their skills developmentally & cultivate this lifelong relationship of healthy eating.

New to The Connected Chef? Check out a Drop In Class of your choice at anytime to make sure it's a good fit!

How do you get started?

For ongoing students:

  • Register for the "Monthly Membership Program" via our scheduler
  • You will receive a confirmation email and contract from our client care coordinator, Maryann
  • Every month, there will be an automatic deduction in your account for the program.
  • Enjoy the benefits of a healthy, happy kiddo!

For new students: Try our classes before committing!

  • Sign up for a "New Student Drop In" class and choose a date/time that works for you.
  • Check out a class to make sure it's the right fit for you and your child.
  • Once you are ready - Register for the "Monthly Membership Program" via our scheduler
  • You will receive a confirmation email and contract from our client care coordinator, Maryann
  • Every month, there will be an automatic deduction in your account for the program.

I'm SO, SO excited to get to offer this to you all and look forward to seeing everyone the first week of March after our 2-week hiatus.

AND....

 

We would like to offer you a (10%) discount for our new spring offerings if you take advantage before March 7th.
Enter the coupon code MEMBERSHIP to take advantage of this exclusive offer!

 

P.S...
As you may know, we've hired 3 new teachers!

In addition to bringing their own specialties, including art & composting to our classes, our teachers will enable us to assist your child in sharpening their skills and allow new students to have the ability to go at their own pace.

Classes are beginning to take shape with 2 different levels; Those who have been with us for some time and then newer students.

This will give our veteran students a chance to be further challenged in their skill and work in the kitchen and garden.

We will also be offering a number of demonstration experiences that your kiddos will have a chance to sign up for monthly at various locations throughout the city this spring/summer season.
These demonstrations will allow your kiddos to show off their skills and build confidence in themselves and empower them to choose healthier food options.
AND they are free for membership students!

Free the ladybugs!

Ok, so I just opened a bag of 300 live ladybugs in my NYC living room this afternoon!

 

What the hell is wrong with me?

Yea, I didn’t think that one through too well.

So here’s what happened…

I am doing a whole gardening Semester with my K-1 kids and I started with Ladybugs. They’re “good” bugs and are helpful for your garden. They are also a great opportunity to talk to the kids about bug anatomy and insect life cycles.

Ladybug diversity is live and well!
Did you know ladybugs eat aphids?

Well, looking at pictures isn’t enough for my teaching taste. So, I ordered up some cute little ladybugs off of Amazon. 300 to be exact.

I did a bit (a very little bit) of research on how to care for ladybugs before you let them free in the garden. I read that I needed to use a plastic container, feed them some nectar and keep a wet paper towel in the container with them so they can hydrate.

Super simple, right?!?  I mean, they’re just ladybugs.

Today, they came in the mail.

I had ready, what I thought was a sealed container and some greenery. They arrived in a small bag with some wood chips and a damp cotton ball.

No threat, right?

WRONG!

Lucas passed me the scissors and I opened the little, inconspicuous bag of ladybugs and ALL. HELL. BROKE. LOOSE.

At first, we watched them crawl quickly out of the bag and into the box. I thought to myself, “Wow, these guys are faster than I thought. They really wanna get outta here.”

Then, I decided to help them. (Yea, still not thinking)

I dumped the bag out and 300 ladybugs came AT ME.

First of all, when I cut open this bag, there was another surprise…

I was welcomed by a large Earwig looking bug that I did not expect. It scared the crap out of me and got me pretty skeeved. It also didn’t help that that encounter was followed by a swarm of ladybugs trying their best to escape and run to freedom. These suckers are FAST!!!

Here’s the thing you guys… It doesn’t matter if a ladybug is a “good bug”.

It’s a FUCKING BUG.

And there is nothing you can do to get away from that instinct people have to be afraid of swarms of anything.

Just a little visual aide to help you begin to imagine the panic I felt.

You might ask, “But Kim, why didn’t you just close the lid to the box?”

I DID!

But, like I mentioned earlier, I only thought the box was sealed. It just so happened that ladybugs are like mice and can squeeze through holes that a normal person would think is too small for them.

As I watched these guys slowly leak onto my hardwood floor, I scrambled for the right container. Three options later, I finally managed to seclude the earwig and dump the rest of the ladybugs into a large, “under the bed” style plastic container.

No Dice.

Ladybugs were now crawling on my kitchen chairs & I couldn’t tell if they were IN the container or ON TOP of it.

“Here’s another mommy!”, says Lucas

“Ladybug? Hold it?” says Thiago.

Now, if these were just ladybugs for our pleasure, I would have had no problem just letting them go outside and having their fun in the wild. But remember, my K-1 class is waiting for them come Monday morning. We’ve already talked all about them, done various projects and I can’t let them down. There is no way I’m coming to class Monday morning without some live ladybugs.

I did the only other thing I had left to do…

Barefoot and without jackets; Lucas, Thiago and I ran downstairs to the garden.

After dropping off the container in the garden, we went back upstairs for shoes and I searched for a few quart containers. I poked some holes and we went back downstairs to do the transfer.

(mind you, my house now has piles of dumped crap everywhere from me commandeering every last plastic box I own.)

So, now under control, Lucas and Thiago were able to help me secure 3 quart containers with a handful of ladybugs each. The rest went free and some, unfortunately, sacrificed their lives for this years gardening semester.

There was a moment when, once outside, a bunch began to fly away and it was quite beautiful. (Although, I didn’t get any pictures because of the chaos)

All in all, it was quite the experience and one I was happy to share with my boys. When they grow up, I hope they remember these kinds of stories about how mommy opened a bag of 300 bugs in our NYC apartment. <3